[Ajaz0810]

So I got married in the beginning of June and love my wife very much but I believe this test has taken a toll on our relationship and Ive only been studying a month. It feels like I need to fight my wife to get the time to study. She interrupts me when I’m in my room alone study by starting to talk, and when I tell her I need to study I feel like I’m being a jerk. I do work 40+ hours a week so when I get home I start studying right away but she just wants to do other things with me. When I get a weekend off I want to spend it studying 8 hours a day but when I tell her I’m going to study she seems to not like it. I try to tell her how hard this test is and if I don’t study then I will fail and she says she understands but I feel this test is having a strain on our relationship. Anybody else have this problem?

FAR 62, 66, 78
AUD 66, 55, 74, 72
BEC 79
REG

[Anonymous]

I am not married but I do have a boyfriend who I live with. He is very understanding of my need to study and respects my need for relative quietness. He knows that it will benefit us both in the long run. It sounds like your wife does not understand the significance of this stage in your life and is acting rather selfish, to be honest. Did you have an honest discussion with her how difficult and important these tests are? Does she know how much money it is just to take a test? Just communicate with her to make sure she understands that this is only a temporary thing. The more she distracts you the longer you will be “unavailable” for her.

[Anonymous]

I am not married but I do have a boyfriend who I live with. He is very understanding of my need to study and respects my need for relative quietness. He knows that it will benefit us both in the long run. It sounds like your wife does not understand the significance of this stage in your life and is acting rather selfish, to be honest. Did you have an honest discussion with her how difficult and important these tests are? Does she know how much money it is just to take a test? Just communicate with her to make sure she understands that this is only a temporary thing. The more she distracts you the longer you will be “unavailable” for her.

[Anonymous]

This WILL be a problem almost no matter what. Women love and need attention and no matter what the reason (even if it's the improvement of both of your lives) this will happen.

Time will go by and the exam will be over before you know it but it will take a toll on your relationship, it'll take a toll on every single aspect of your life but the day will come when it will be over.

[Anonymous]

This WILL be a problem almost no matter what. Women love and need attention and no matter what the reason (even if it's the improvement of both of your lives) this will happen.

Time will go by and the exam will be over before you know it but it will take a toll on your relationship, it'll take a toll on every single aspect of your life but the day will come when it will be over.

[tough_kitty]

Interesting response. I actually think that the wife isn't as demanding as it may seem. After all, you just got married! You knew you'd need time to study for the exam, so you could have explained it to her and schedule the wedding after your exam but if you chose to get married first, you should be able to schedule your study time that way, so you have at least a few hours to spend with your wife on the weekends. You still have to eat, right? So, schedule some dinner dates? Make sure she understands how important this exam is but also do find time for her if you don't want this marriage to end… Just my opinion. You may listen or ignore 🙂 I'm just trying to help…

FAR: 81 (May 2013)
BEC: 81 (July 2013)
REG: 83 (August 2013)
AUD: 82 (November 2013)
California CPA since 1/30/14

[tough_kitty]

Interesting response. I actually think that the wife isn't as demanding as it may seem. After all, you just got married! You knew you'd need time to study for the exam, so you could have explained it to her and schedule the wedding after your exam but if you chose to get married first, you should be able to schedule your study time that way, so you have at least a few hours to spend with your wife on the weekends. You still have to eat, right? So, schedule some dinner dates? Make sure she understands how important this exam is but also do find time for her if you don't want this marriage to end… Just my opinion. You may listen or ignore 🙂 I'm just trying to help…

FAR: 81 (May 2013)
BEC: 81 (July 2013)
REG: 83 (August 2013)
AUD: 82 (November 2013)
California CPA since 1/30/14

[tough_kitty]

Maybe get up a few hours early than her on the weekends and study then?

FAR: 81 (May 2013)
BEC: 81 (July 2013)
REG: 83 (August 2013)
AUD: 82 (November 2013)
California CPA since 1/30/14

[tough_kitty]

Maybe get up a few hours early than her on the weekends and study then?

FAR: 81 (May 2013)
BEC: 81 (July 2013)
REG: 83 (August 2013)
AUD: 82 (November 2013)
California CPA since 1/30/14

[Amay]

You can find a balance of study time and wifey time. I try to keep my Friday nights free for date night or whatever. And during the weekend we at least do meals together, and if we have plans at night, I will plan my study schedule around it. It is very difficult, but doable. They need to understand the importance of study time, but there also needs to be a compromise and scheduled times to do things together, or she will feel neglected and you will not be happy either.

BEC: 73, 81
AUD: 85
FAR: 71, 77
REG: 74, 75...finally DONE! 😀

*This is my 2nd attempt at the CPA exam. For all of you who have failed this exam many times, given up on it, or taken a break like me, remember that it is still possible to finish what you started...failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently 🙂

[Amay]

You can find a balance of study time and wifey time. I try to keep my Friday nights free for date night or whatever. And during the weekend we at least do meals together, and if we have plans at night, I will plan my study schedule around it. It is very difficult, but doable. They need to understand the importance of study time, but there also needs to be a compromise and scheduled times to do things together, or she will feel neglected and you will not be happy either.

BEC: 73, 81
AUD: 85
FAR: 71, 77
REG: 74, 75...finally DONE! 😀

*This is my 2nd attempt at the CPA exam. For all of you who have failed this exam many times, given up on it, or taken a break like me, remember that it is still possible to finish what you started...failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently 🙂

[Anonymous]

I agree with Amay. Find a balance that works for wifey. When I come home from work, my husband and I have dinner together and I usually watch one of the silly shows (Wheeler Dealers, anyone?) he likes for 30 minutes or so. Then I say… time to go study and off I go. Also, 8 hours of study time is a wonderful goal but give her a time frame on Saturday and/or Sunday..say 2-4 and let her plan something. Let that be your study break and then be present while you are doing whatever it is with her. She needs to feel as important as the CPA exam.

Flip side: Make sure she understands this goal is for the betterment (Hey..I learned a new FAR term) of your marriage and she is either in it with you 100% or she's not. Girl needs to make that decision and support you!

Good luck! I hope you pass them all on the first try and get past this…

[Anonymous]

I agree with Amay. Find a balance that works for wifey. When I come home from work, my husband and I have dinner together and I usually watch one of the silly shows (Wheeler Dealers, anyone?) he likes for 30 minutes or so. Then I say… time to go study and off I go. Also, 8 hours of study time is a wonderful goal but give her a time frame on Saturday and/or Sunday..say 2-4 and let her plan something. Let that be your study break and then be present while you are doing whatever it is with her. She needs to feel as important as the CPA exam.

Flip side: Make sure she understands this goal is for the betterment (Hey..I learned a new FAR term) of your marriage and she is either in it with you 100% or she's not. Girl needs to make that decision and support you!

Good luck! I hope you pass them all on the first try and get past this…

[Ajaz0810]

Thanks for the responses. I told her at the beginning of this process that I was going to need time to do this and it could take time away from both of us. I even asked her if she didn't want me to do this. She said I should. I've communicate with her and told her she gets Saturday and Monday night together. However she wanted to do something with her family this weekend and I agreed to go with her. When she told me this yesterday I said I needed to study Saturday night and she said I'm not following the rules for Saturday nights together. I'm trying to communicate but it just seems like I'm fighting to study which is frustrating. She just doesn't understand the dedication this test takes. It seems like nobody understands the dedication this takes unless you do it yourself.

FAR 62, 66, 78
AUD 66, 55, 74, 72
BEC 79
REG

[Ajaz0810]

Thanks for the responses. I told her at the beginning of this process that I was going to need time to do this and it could take time away from both of us. I even asked her if she didn't want me to do this. She said I should. I've communicate with her and told her she gets Saturday and Monday night together. However she wanted to do something with her family this weekend and I agreed to go with her. When she told me this yesterday I said I needed to study Saturday night and she said I'm not following the rules for Saturday nights together. I'm trying to communicate but it just seems like I'm fighting to study which is frustrating. She just doesn't understand the dedication this test takes. It seems like nobody understands the dedication this takes unless you do it yourself.

FAR 62, 66, 78
AUD 66, 55, 74, 72
BEC 79
REG

[mtaylo24]

I try to keep this journey as far away from my wife and son as possible. Luckily, my wife is a RN and has night shift. As soon as my son goes down I have time to study. I don't get much done the days she's off, so I know where you're coming from. The thing with these exams is you will Never ever ever ever have the ideal perfect situation. Family, friends, work, and other things will get in the way. You just have the squeeze in your studies and find a ideal plan for your specific situation.

CPA (2017)

REG:  75

BEC:  76

FAR:  77

AUD: 78

 

CMA (2019)

P1: 380

P2: 360

AUD - 1st - 60 (12/12), 61 (2/13), 61 (8/13), 78! (11/15)
REG - 55 (2/16) 69 (5/16) Retake(8/16)
BEC - 71(5/16) Retake (9/16)
FAR - (8/16)

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