Dumped during studying. Am I all alone?

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    Anonymous
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    Well, today I was blindsided by my boyfriend of 17 months after a three hour hang out at my house. As he was leaving he said we should break up and proceeded to take out a bullet point list of his reasons why our lives together no longer make sense. At the top of the list was studying for the CPA exams. Am I the only one who has gotten dumped during this horrible process??? I am now completely unmotivated to study after a failure in my first section FAR and a possible failure in AUD that I took on Saturday and now this break up. I feel like I wasted precious study hours trying to make this relationship work and now it is costing me study time. Any advice/positive thoughts are welcome 🙂

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  • #435407
    acamp
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    “I feel like I wasted precious study hours trying to make this relationship work”

    Sounds like you had a priority, CPA > Relationship. Nothing wrong with that, but recognize it for what it is. I don't know what your schedule was like, but if it was 90+% work, study, sleep other aspects were bound to suffer.

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    #435408
    mantic
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    In my opinion, boys are dumb. That probably sounds really juvenile but that is my experience. Think of it this way: you'll have more time to study now! 🙂 I'm surprised he didn't see the long-term benefits of you passing a cpa exam… not to mention going for your dreams. Then again, boys are dumb. 🙂 If not all, then definitely this one.

    #435409
    mla1169
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    Sounds to me like he was looking for an excuse, and your studying was convenient enough for him. You deserve someone who will be your biggest cheerleader, and support you every step of the way.

    Anything less is not worth your time. There are far greater struggles in a relationship to overcome, and he would have flaked out on you over something else if it wasn't this. I've been with my husband since 1987, and the CPA exams weren't any more fun for him than they were for me (especially since we have kids) but ending our relationship was never a consideration.

    Go kill these exams! It's the one thing you CAN control right now.

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    #435410
    Anonymous
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    I graduated from college in May and won't start my FT job until October so this whole summer was dedicated to studying and my relationship did suffer as a result. I agree that no matter what things will suffer and I did make my goal of getting at least 2 parts over with before I started my job my top priority. I agree boys are dumb and after explaining that this process won't last forever he mentioned going away out of state for grad school which I felt was just a cop out to make me feel better since I am not really into a long distance relationship.

    #435411

    It reminds me of a comment Peter Olinto makes in the R-5 Lecture on Contracts. He said: “no fun until the exam is over and if your significant other doesn't support you and wants to leave then let them because after you become a CPA you will be looking to upgrade anyhow”

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    #435412
    lsutigers03
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    I was just coming to post Olinto's comment on this subject that Jared posted. My fiancé hates all the time that I have to study but she understands that I'm trying to better myself and my career and at the same time better my and her future. She's my biggest cheerleader. She celebrates harder than anyone when I pass and she picks me up when I fail. You need someone that isn't so selfish and can make sacrifices while you take the next step in your career.

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    #435413
    Anonymous
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    It takes way more than studying for the cpa exam to kill a relationship. If that was his #1 excuse, it's pretty lame. Focus on your studies and knock these exams out of the park. When the time is right, you will find someone truly wonderful who appreciates your ambition and hard work… and is not so self centered. In the mean time…yeah…break ups suck!! Good luck to you on your exam journey!

    #435414
    MintsRGood
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    If someone can't handle you at your worst, they don't deserve you at your best. Keep your head up and in those books!!! 🙂

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    #435415
    LStevens225
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    Clearly he isn't worth it. My husband wants me to study because he knows its my goal but I think its mostly because he gets to play video games and I'd be making more money lol.

    #435416
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    CPA dilemma: I am sorry for your loss. Keep on with your studying, you can do this. One thing that my husband said to me, while I was thinking about all the time I wasted on a ex that cheated a lot on me, was that those experiences made me the woman that I was, and the woman that he fell in love with. I stopped thinking of it as wasted time, but character building.

    LStevens: LOL My husband also enjoys my study time so that he does not have to limit his video game time! But he has gutted and remodeled a house while I am studying. So I can't complain about the games. 🙂 He also is my best cheerleader in supporting my dreams.

    #435417
    mrsimple
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    “If you're absent during my struggle, don't expect to be present during my success”

    Push on.

    And..quoting “Boys are dumb”…

    I'm a male, broke up with my girlfriend of 11 months because she kept giving me crap about how I don't spend enough time with her cause I was always studying. (I was recent graduate, and she was senior). I had enough of her shit, and ended things.

    Fast forward about eight months later, after she graduated, and tried studying for the CPA, came back to me to apologize on how she didn't understand, and wanted to hang out again. I laughed. No pity parties.

    Hense… “Girls are dumb” 😛

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    BEC - 57, 77
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    REG - 66, 79

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    #435418
    sleepingfish
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    CPA Dilemma: I'm sorry that you have to go through this while studying for these exams!! I agree with everyone's post here, if your partner can't handle you studying for the exam, I can't imagine him being supportive through other events in life. You deserve better!

    I had a similar experience. My ex broke up with me a couple of months before my very first exam, one of the reasons being me not having enough time to spend with him. Needless to say, I was devastated and everyday felt like living hell, but I managed to show up for work everyday and kept on studying. It paid off, I passed that section on my first try despite all the stress.

    8 months later, I'm 75% done with the exam (waiting for BEC results now, will be finally done if I can get that 75!) and have met a wonderful, supportive, and understanding person who is now my (much better) bf.

    It might not seem like it now, but things will get better. Keep studying and don't give up!!

    #435419

    Retire that asset =] lol

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    #435420
    Mjs157
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    Best comment of all time, ParanoidAndroid.

    #435421
    Kenada
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    I say its better this happened now than much later. Focus on your exams and once you have gotten your CPA you will have such a sense of achievement that this phase of your life will seem like a small bump in the road.

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