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So, here’s my cliche “coworker drama” post 🙂 I have been working at a company for a year and a half and the entire time I’ve been here, I’ve had a coworker who either feels threatened by me or just truly hates me. Everytime I ask him a question, he finds a way to belittle me or talk to me like I’m stupid. He’s extremely condescending; he’ll laugh at me or say my name in a way that shows he clearly thinks I’m dumb. He ignores all emails that I send him, unless he can find a way to talk down to me or tell me how to do my job. I don’t know if it’s because I’m female or if it’s because I’m young or if he really just thinks I’m stupid. I have even seen emails back and forth about me between he and my manager, that my manager has accidentally left up on his computer screen. I haven’t done anything to warrant this kind of behavior. I get great feedback from my manager and the VP of my department, yet this person always finds something to complain about when it comes to me. I filled a brand new position in my department and there’s never been anyone in the department for this person to have to work with really. I have talked to my manager three times about the situation and there’s always an excuse made for him, although my manager consistently tells me how difficult this person can be and that he knows I’m not doing anything wrong. I’ve even talked to my coworker and told him that if he has a problem with me, he needs to tell me directly because I can’t do anything about something I don’t know about. I don’t report to this person, he’s simply my coworker but he’s making my work life miserable. Quite honestly, I feel like I’m being talked about between my manager and coworker and it makes me extremely uncomfortable. Anything I tell my manager, my coworker knows about, including confidential information about my health and other things. Nothing I say or do seems to matter.
I have a meeting set up with the Director/VP of my department (I work in a pretty small department) in a couple weeks for something unrelated and I’m debating if I should bring up the situation to him. I don’t want to come off as being emotional or dramatic but when it’s interfering with my work life, to the point that I’m crying in a conference room (I hardly every cry either, which makes it that much worse that I let it get to me), and to the point where I’m starting to feel completely worthless in my department…I just feel like I’m at my wits end. I know that saying something could backfire but how badly do you let a situation get before you say something? I like my job and I don’t want to leave but I also don’t want to have a coworker who treats me like crap unless we have nothing to do with eachother.
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