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I’ll try to make this short but could REALLY use some input on a very difficult situation.
Aug 2013 I transferred to the audit dept at my company. Coming in, I knew my boss’ intent was to make me the supervisor of our group. He had myself, another lady who’s at the company 40+ years, and 4 new college grads directly reporting to him, and he wanted to change the structure to where they all report to me and I report to him.
With one stipulation, he kept saying I want you to be the next Betty (name changed) and learn everything she knows before she retires which could be any year now.(I couldn’t stand him saying that, but I brushed it off as him just emphasizing he wants me to learn from her.) She has more than enough $$$ to retire and is 62, however just wants to keep working…
Betty and I get along for the most part, and even when she treats me like cr** in front of everyone, I still act professional and try to brush it off because I don’t want any workplace drama…
My boss has worked with Betty for the past 7 yrs- he came into our company as an audit director from another company. Because of how much she knows about our company and how long she’s been there, he’s relied a ton on her for his success and she knows this.. and she knows how “valuable” she is, and is very cocky about it.
Betty is knowledgeable, no doubt. She’s been in many management positions in her earlier years, but has decided to “retire on the job” and take a low-level job with the same pay. That said, she is very overbearing and can’t let go of the spotlight and the need to be in charge. She is very loud, always right.
Lately she keeps saying “I just tell it like it is, and I know that’s not the popular thing around here lately”… and my boss made mention that she is just very “direct”, but the truth is about 1/2 the time she is direct, the other 1/2 she is condescending and demeaning to people and can NEVER be wrong.
Jan 2014 I was promoted to supervisor of our group w/1 stipulation. Betty still reports to my boss, everyone else reports to me.
He tells me that he wants me to indirectly act as her supervisor and hints that the reason she doesn’t directly report to me is because of obvious factors (i.e. she wouldn’t take it well, and he’s a people pleaser and needs her around so he wouldn’t want to make her mad by making someone > 1/2 her age her boss). Workload of our group is still the same, I’m just now managing 4 people and indirectly managing 1.. and reporting to him.
Lately work has been miserable because of her, and yesterday was the worst. I love where I work but this was the first time in 4+ yrs I’ve cried behind closed doors out of utter frustration.
She points out things we need to go “chase after” and it always ends up being me having to do it. Right now I’m drowning in work, and I know she’s over in her cube filing her nails. I come in at 7am and usually don’t leave until 5pm. Everyday she strolls in no earlier than 9:30, and rarely stays past 4.
She calls me out in front of my employees and frequently gives me pushback 99% of the time when she’s blaming me for something or questioning why I did something, it ends up being for a perfectly fine reason and nothing ends up being wrong. But she won’t ever apologize or acknowledge she jumped to conclusions too fast.
I can tell it makes my employees uncomfortable the way she talks to me. I stick up for them if she ever makes comments to them about their audit work, and when she has called me out I defend myself in a professional manner, reminding her that a lot of the things she’s questioning me about were things “WE” worked on together and agreed that was the way it needed to be.
I feel embarrassed for not completely telling her off sometimes with how rude she is, because I feel like I’m being a pushover, however I’m just trying to remain the bigger person.
How do I approach this? The times she’s not on her high horse needing to boss everyone and put everyone down she and I actually get along fairly decent.
Should I pull her aside and let her know she’s crossed the line?
Do I directly talk to my boss about this?
I don’t want to seem like I can’t handle the new responsibility I’ve been given, or like I’m whining. Could REALLY use some inputs… if you’ve made it this far- thanks for reading.
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