November 13, 2014 at 2:44 pm #676815
It honestly seems like your husband is an unfaithful man and maybe using this other woman to hurt you intentionally. In my eyes, even an emotional connection with a woman other than your wife is a form of cheating. I am so sorry and feel so much sadness for you because I couldn't imagine going through this at all in my life, especially while trying to study. This must have caused so you much additional stress and anxiety.
You need to do what is best for you. Will you be able to study if you kick him out and not know what he's doing (hanging out more with the ex)? Do you care anymore what he's doing? No matter what advice anyone gives you, you know your relationship best. You remember the good times. You know the love that is there. But also, you know how the hurt and pain you've been going through.
You seem to be career driven. I can see someone in your situation maybe saying ‘forget the CPA, my marriage is falling apart'. But not you! You are pushing through! And for that, you should be proud of yourself! And honestly, maybe that is intimidating to your husband and his ex provides more of a ‘comfort zone' for him.
I hope you are able to bang these exams out and move on from this point in your life!November 13, 2014 at 3:01 pm #676816mla1169Participant
Suddenly it strikes me that some people think there might be a chance (maybe there is) that OP's husband is filling some type of emotional void with this other woman but nobody has suggested that the OP herself might be filling an emotional void by trying to advance her career. (this is not a criticism, would be wise if anyone thought their marriage might fail to put themselves in the best possible financial position for the future!)
Doesn't mean theres right vs wrong even in this situation.November 13, 2014 at 3:06 pm #676817
I think people who go through the experience of this exam really get pushed and they learn a lot about themselves. You are going through it with your marriage and recently I have started experiencing severe anxiety. I was 3 tests down and right as I was about to start studying for FAR (which was supposed to be in the 3Q when the passing rate is higher) I started getting anxiety so bad that I couldn't even get out of bed. Tons of blood work and medicine later, they finally said it was anxiety. I passed BEC in Q2 and had to take all of Q3 off – which made me more anxious. To date, my anxiety still gets the best of me. Just hoping and praying I can make it thru FAR and actually sit for 4.5 hours without have an attack.
Point is, everyone goes thru things in life. Some are good, some suck. Regardless, I do believe they all make us stronger.November 13, 2014 at 3:10 pm #676818
@mla1169 – I don't think anything, I'm just giving things that might be possible…but really, who knows other than the 2 people involved?
For all we know, the reverse is right.
Just trying to be supportive of a fellow CPA taker!November 13, 2014 at 3:11 pm #676819
Side note: I know all about panic!! Believe me. I have been taking meds for it to help since I passed the 3rd section. Just nice to know I'm not alone.
Didn't mean to change the subject of this serious post. Sorry.November 13, 2014 at 3:15 pm #676820
OMG Rocky!! I like you more and more each day! I just started taking medicine last month ‘as needed' which is everyday. I am praying it goes away after this test is done!November 13, 2014 at 3:26 pm #676821
That is my hope too. Although, I have a feeling that the worse part will be waiting for our grades!!! Good luck to both of us!
I'm glad you have made yourself continue pursuing the CPA designation. I have thought about quitting, but I know I would feel even worse if I did quit. If I fail this exam, at least I can say that I tried. But I know that even if I fail, I will continue pressing on. Although I will probably be disowned. LOL. Everyone around me is tired of my constant studying.November 13, 2014 at 3:27 pm #676822golfball7773Participant
I take Prozac everyday for depression/anxiety. Helps me from lashing out at my wifeNovember 13, 2014 at 3:33 pm #676823
My doctor gave me Klonopin, very lose dose, which really does take the edge off. It's on an as-needed basis, and I wasn't taking it much at first but once I started studying for FAR the anxiety became to bad I started taking it. They say I can take it 2 times a day, but I'm most anxious during the day and perfectly fine at night, so I only take 1.
I used to come and go without a worry in the world – this hit me out of no where! One day I was good, one day I wasn't. Sometimes I wish I could go back to the day before this happened and do it differently. Very confusing for my husband to watch. He doesn't get it. It's been a few months now and after taking the meds I'm definitely better so he doesn't see me as anxious as I was.
@Rocky – I seriously thought of quitting a few months ago bc of how I was feeling. But I just couldn't see myself stopping at this point. I'm really hoping God knows how hard this has been for us and helps us out on test day!November 13, 2014 at 3:41 pm #676824
@detemined you're almost there so just hang in there 🙂 one day we're all gonna make itNovember 13, 2014 at 3:42 pm #676825
I take Klonopin also. I was also prescribed a sleep med. It helps me GET to sleep, but usually after 4 or 5 hours, it seems to wear off and I'm wide awake with my heart racing. I REALLY hope to get off of these meds once I am done with this exam.
It's hard for other people who haven't taken the exam to know what we're going through.November 13, 2014 at 3:46 pm #676826
@zubairs – thank you!!! It's nice to know others are experiencing the same things!!
@ Rocky – My doctor said the Klonopin should help with sleeping. Does this not happen to you? If not, try melatonin for sleep – its a vitamin that you can buy anywhere (target, walmart, cvs) and people take when they have jet lag and need help falling asleep. When I cant sleep I take that. Knocks me out! I think it can go as high as 5MG but wow that's a lot and you will be super groggy in the morning – I take 2mg!
FlaglerAmanda – I hope you are doing ok. Please keep us posted! Sorry this convo was side tracked but I hope you know you are not alone and we are all here to listen/support you!November 13, 2014 at 3:53 pm #676827
I tried melatonin. Did not help me. Klonopin makes me drowsy, but not enough to fall asleep. If I didn't take a sleep med, I couldn't sleep. I get that worked up.November 13, 2014 at 4:17 pm #676828November 13, 2014 at 4:18 pm #676829
Lol aw zubairs! That was cute! And I do agree! Cuddles sure do help 🙂
Rocky I feel bad you have such a hard time sleeping! Anxiety is rough enough when you get 8 hours. I used to have that problem but fortunately sleeping hasn't been an issue for me in a while. When you pass far (yes when!) please keep me posted on your anxiety.November 13, 2014 at 4:20 pm #676830
I can't believe I'm admitting to this, but I do sleep with a special “blankie” and a big stuffed bear. It does help.November 13, 2014 at 4:25 pm #676831
Bahaha love that!!!November 13, 2014 at 4:28 pm #676832AnonymousInactive
This thread just makes me happy that I'm on track to finish before my wedding in April… good luck to everyone in this thread who is struggling one way or another.November 13, 2014 at 4:33 pm #676833
How did AUD go on the 10th?November 13, 2014 at 4:36 pm #676834AnonymousInactive
I don't want to feel over-confident, but I got the same feeling I did when I walked out of FAR. Nailed the sims, and I think the MCQ's got harder as the exam went on. I'm just hoping for the best.November 13, 2014 at 4:38 pm #676835MamabearMember
Ya'll totally highjacked this thread!November 13, 2014 at 4:38 pm #676836
Best of luck! Keep us updated!!
How's BEC treating you?November 13, 2014 at 4:41 pm #676837AnonymousInactive
I'm honestly finding it hard to review BEC because 1) it might be my last exam and 2) the material just isn't that complicated. I wish I had buckled down a tiny bit more back in August but I just got lazy.November 13, 2014 at 5:07 pm #676838November 13, 2014 at 5:11 pm #676839FlaglerAmandaParticipant
Re: the post jacking, it's all good. I think I have what I need as far as support/information/commiseration goes.
I just need to make my decision, nut up and handle it.November 13, 2014 at 5:12 pm #676840
I wish Jeff would add a chat room.November 13, 2014 at 5:13 pm #676841
Lol peer pressure!!November 13, 2014 at 5:14 pm #676842
I love this site. It makes me laugh and keeps me sane.November 13, 2014 at 5:26 pm #676843November 13, 2014 at 5:31 pm #676844
I'll tell you how I feel right now. Ask me in another hour and you might get a different response 😉
I'm at the final review stage. Exam is on the 23rd. I've been through all of the material and have a working knowledge of most of it. I accept that I won't know everything.
I've been working multiple choice to keep all material fresh. I'll do the best I can. I can't study 24/7. I have a fulltime job and 2 kids that need my attention. Plus a boyfriend, who, although frustrated, has been supportive. If he's frustrated, at least I don't hear about it on a daily basis.
How's it going for you? I see you take it the day before me?
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