[FlaglerAmanda]

I graduated December 2013, started my experience requirement the same time. I’ve taken the majority of the additional classes since then – just have two business classes left. Plan was to complete all 4 sections/experience/150 Hours all at the same time.

Husband was on board – but kind of glossed over the detail of how freaking busy I’d be working for a tax/compilation firm AND getting all of this done. He only heard the part of “Done in one year”. He’s now emotionally involved with an ex girlfriend — and we’ve had these issues MANY times in the past.

It’s hard to concentrate on Gleim when your life is falling apart, ya know?

FAR - 86
BEC - 88
REG - 83
AUD - 74, 89 Done!!!!

Two business classes between me and being a FL CPA!!!

[maxwillguy]

My marriage was ending either way. I guess in my situation, the relationship issues got in the way of the studying, not the other way around.

I asked about counseling. She wasn't interested. She cheated. She is not a good person. Moving on.

FAR - Passed (2/14)
REG - Passed (5/14)
Audit - Passed (8/14)
BEC - 8/31

[In God I trust]

Pray and do all that you know to do to save your marriage. In the future, you will be at peace with yourself when you know that you did your best to save your marriage. Divorce is not easy on anyone especially the kids. On another note, please be careful. Cheating spouses have passed deadly diseases to their significant other. You don’t know how many people he is sleeping around with or how careful they are.

Remember to pray and fast. There is nothing God can do. I pray God guides and helps you make the best decision-amen.

[FlaglerAmanda]

Update – I just took BEC, was hoping to take both REG and AUD this window….And he's got his ex girlfriend coming into town for the weekend. They're “just friends”… but he wants me to take her shopping for a marital aid while she's here. WTF, right?

So, REG now, AUD in January, I guess since several study hours will be taken up by an unwanted guest.. and my last two business classes in January & February.

CPA in time for the season… fingers crossed.

FAR - 86
BEC - 88
REG - 83
AUD - 74, 89 Done!!!!

Two business classes between me and being a FL CPA!!!

[masa_inn]

I am moving out with my kid. Yes, my marriage was already very rocky. Yes, CPA exam efficiently nailed the coffin of the said marriage.

I'm 37 and kinda see myself as a single number cruncher for the rest of my life. Blah.

FAR
AUD 02/10/14 passed
BEC
REG

Roger, WTB, Ninja materials

[masa_inn]

Edited to delete double

FAR
AUD 02/10/14 passed
BEC
REG

Roger, WTB, Ninja materials

[FlaglerAmanda]

I'm just so damn tired between study, work, and family that I CANNOT handle this additional stress.

I used to say “No major changes until…” Until I finish my degree, until I get the promotion, until I …whatever.

I'm now thinking that I should have made the one change that will matter a long time ago.

FAR - 86
BEC - 88
REG - 83
AUD - 74, 89 Done!!!!

Two business classes between me and being a FL CPA!!!

[Determined CPA]

This tread is extremely sad.

A - 75
B - 78 God is good.
F - 77 Answered prayers.
R - 84! Done!!

Paperwork sent - waiting for license!!
Still on a cloud and in shock. Through God, all things will happen.

[Rocky123]

@FlaglerAmanda

What change are you referring to?

The tallest oak in the forest was once just a little nut that held its ground.

AUD-PASS
BEC-PASS
REG-PASS
FAR-PASS

Rocky123, CPA

[FlaglerAmanda]

@Rocky123

Asking him to leave.

FAR - 86
BEC - 88
REG - 83
AUD - 74, 89 Done!!!!

Two business classes between me and being a FL CPA!!!

[Rocky123]

I'm so sorry to hear that. Especially around the holidays. Are you going to wait until after?

The tallest oak in the forest was once just a little nut that held its ground.

AUD-PASS
BEC-PASS
REG-PASS
FAR-PASS

Rocky123, CPA

[FlaglerAmanda]

I don't know what I'm going to do.

I need to finish up the two exams & the two classes to finish the certification. That has to be my major focus…. while his “friend” and her medical issues are his.

FAR - 86
BEC - 88
REG - 83
AUD - 74, 89 Done!!!!

Two business classes between me and being a FL CPA!!!

[Determined CPA]

@FlaglerAmanda – what does your husband do for a living? Just asking because it seems your life is very busy and progressing and maybe his is at a standstill and he is feeling 1. neglected and 2. less of a man? Maybe his ex is a little less busy and accomplished?

Have you two tried therapy?

Do you try and have date night? I study 6 nights a week (Mon-Thurs at night after work from 7-11) and then ALL day sat and roughly 5 hours sunday. But Fridays are OFF – NO STUDYING! I give him that – have you tried something like that? Or is it too far along by now?

A - 75
B - 78 God is good.
F - 77 Answered prayers.
R - 84! Done!!

Paperwork sent - waiting for license!!
Still on a cloud and in shock. Through God, all things will happen.

[FlaglerAmanda]

He's working for a regional grocery chain. Less stress. He actually goes in at 3 AM most mornings. So he's always either sleeping or on the phone with his ex. I don't bother him because I respect that he needs sleep, but if she needs or wants something he's up and raring to go. His ex is definitely not as driven as me.

We used to have a weekly date night. Then I had a class that met only on that night, he got into doing something else and I've had maybe three date nights since then. He's always too tired or wants to watch football so he can let his ex know how the game is going or anything but worry with me. So I study. So that one day I won't have to study.

FAR - 86
BEC - 88
REG - 83
AUD - 74, 89 Done!!!!

Two business classes between me and being a FL CPA!!!

[Rocky123]

I'm no expert, but ending things right now might make things worse. You will have that to deal with, plus passing the exam, etc. Unless it's so stressful, that ending it right now would make things less stressful?

I hope I'm making sense here.

The tallest oak in the forest was once just a little nut that held its ground.

AUD-PASS
BEC-PASS
REG-PASS
FAR-PASS

Rocky123, CPA

[Determined CPA]

It honestly seems like your husband is an unfaithful man and maybe using this other woman to hurt you intentionally. In my eyes, even an emotional connection with a woman other than your wife is a form of cheating. I am so sorry and feel so much sadness for you because I couldn't imagine going through this at all in my life, especially while trying to study. This must have caused so you much additional stress and anxiety.

You need to do what is best for you. Will you be able to study if you kick him out and not know what he's doing (hanging out more with the ex)? Do you care anymore what he's doing? No matter what advice anyone gives you, you know your relationship best. You remember the good times. You know the love that is there. But also, you know how the hurt and pain you've been going through.

You seem to be career driven. I can see someone in your situation maybe saying ‘forget the CPA, my marriage is falling apart'. But not you! You are pushing through! And for that, you should be proud of yourself! And honestly, maybe that is intimidating to your husband and his ex provides more of a ‘comfort zone' for him.

I hope you are able to bang these exams out and move on from this point in your life!

A - 75
B - 78 God is good.
F - 77 Answered prayers.
R - 84! Done!!

Paperwork sent - waiting for license!!
Still on a cloud and in shock. Through God, all things will happen.

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