April 15, 2013 at 11:42 pm #177122
*Disclaimer* This is sad.
I have an estranged relationship with my father, I have spoke to him once in the last six years. He was found dead today by my 16 year old brother. Our parents are divorced and I am next of kin. Besides my heart breaking for my brother (he lived with my father) I am completely and utterly numb. I have no idea how to feel. I am scheduled to take REG (the last part for me) on Wednesday. I have studied more than I can even put into words. Power weekends, power nights, MC until I want to puke. I felt ready today, I felt like I could take down that beast that is REG until I got the phone call.
I desperately want to be done with this beast. I have studied so hard on one hand and on the other my own father, who I admittedly havent spoke to, just died. I think my brother would want me to take it, I mean whats the worst that could happen…I fail again. My brother has been one of my biggest cheerleaders. I'm so lost, so confused…so numb. When I found out I immediately started rattling off estate tax information…maybe my way to cope.
Sorry if this is not the place for soemthing like this. Just thought someone might be able to give me some encouragement/motivation/kind words…something since we are all studying for this exam too.
Hope everyone had a productive study day.April 15, 2013 at 11:54 pm #430273mla1169Participant
I am so very sorry! Estranged or not, that is your father. Not in your shoes so in no position to give advice, but take care of YOU and if rescheduling is better for you, do it.April 16, 2013 at 12:47 am #430274
I agree with mla, you need to take care of you. Do what you think its best for you, if you think taking the exam is best for you take it, if you need time to be with your brother move your exam. Either way i am thinking of you and hope you get through this difficult time with your brother.April 16, 2013 at 12:59 am #430275AnonymousInactive
This is exactly the place for this, so no need for disclaimers. You need to do what you feel is right for you and your brother. I can't tell you what I would do, because I've never been in your shoes. I do know that when my father passed away, he would have wanted me to keep going, but he was stubborn that way. Take care of yourself!April 16, 2013 at 1:12 am #430276MintsRGoodParticipant
@SMP73 I'm so sorry to hear about your dad!!!!!! You know what is best for you, so see how you feel in the morning and take care of yourself and your family. You still have time to push it back if that's what you think is best. Personally, I lost my father very unexpectedly in 1997 on a random Sunday…and my high school winter finals were the following Monday. About half of my teachers agreed to waive the final exam and record my grade as it stood but the other half were insistent that I sat for the exams. I pushed them all back as late as possible because I knew there was no way I could have pulled it together that week, but everyone is different!!!
If taking the exam will make you feel normal and human, then do it! If the thought is unbearable or your family needs your support terribly Wednesday then you know what you need to do.
Take care and lots of prayers to you and your family tonight!!!!!!!!!!!April 16, 2013 at 1:21 am #430277Shamir215Participant
Sorry for your lost. My brother was murdered while I was studying for the exam, He was shot 5x's while with his girlfriend. I took my scheduled exam. although it was a month afterwards. If your ready to take the exam, Pull yourself together for 4hrs and bang it out. You can do it!!!! And after you do it, when people ask you, “tell me an experience that tested you” you will be able to say you passed the CPA after just losing a Love one. It will be hard. I know my brother would have wanted me to take it so I took it for him. The passing exam is for your father. Let us all know when you PASS!!! Stay Up!April 16, 2013 at 1:27 am #430278
Thanks guys. I really appreciate it. I just talked to my brother (he is with my mom…I am home with my dogs) he told me that I should be studying right now instead of talking to him. He also said that I better take it on Wednesday that he wants me to. He knew how upset I was when I got the 74 on REG when I took it in February. Maybe in a way for him if I take it there will be some sense of normalcy.April 16, 2013 at 1:35 am #430279wendywhiteMember
I can only say that there is no good time in your life for these things to happen. Rescheduling will not make anything better or easier. Knocking the test out of the park however – will allow you to focus on your family and yourself for awhile.April 16, 2013 at 1:55 am #430280
I think today has been too much for me, crying at all of these moving posts…..
thinking of you allApril 16, 2013 at 2:52 am #430281MCLKTParticipant
SMP – I just wanted to give you a big A71 hug. I'm sorry for your loss (estranged or not). I haven't much of value to add, my life experiences don't offer any guidance here. But I wanted to show you some support, nonetheless. Kricket was right, this is exactly the place for you to talk about this.
@Shamir – I'm so sorry about your brother. So, very, very sorry. You're passing the CPA in is honor and that is awesome. I'm sure he is very proud of you.
And MINTS, you know I got nothin but love for you.
(((HUGS))) to you all.April 16, 2013 at 3:08 am #430282Tina82Member
smp, very sorry to hear 🙁 whatever you decide to do I'm sure it will be the best decision under the circumstance. Hang in there.April 16, 2013 at 6:10 am #430283SeattleAccountantMember
@Smp, OMG, sorry to hear this stuff. This is just horrible 🙁
Hugs from the ano71 family… and my condolences to you and your brother. This is hard. Feel superbad for your brother who found him – this dude will need a lot of care and love as well, poor kid. So sorry guys, sending you prayers and love, hang-in there.
@Shamir, sorry about your loss. Heck, can't even imagine to be going on when s…t like that happens, so senseless… Wishing you best too.April 16, 2013 at 11:25 am #430284
Thanks guys. I really appreciate it. I am going to take the exam tomorrow. Hoping to get in a few hours of review through out the day but I am going to take it. My brother wants me to and at the end of the day if I fail it…its not the end of the world.
Still can't believe this is happening.April 16, 2013 at 3:47 pm #430285TncincyParticipant
Many prayers and comfort for you and your family. I believe you will have the strength to take on the exam and afterwards the strength to support your family. So just keep swimming and OBEY, Dr. Spock and Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.
You can do this and everything will work out because the A71 gang is behind you…:-))April 16, 2013 at 9:02 pm #430286Shamir215Participant
hgggggkjApril 16, 2013 at 11:22 pm #430287
Today was so hard. So very hard. Trying to keep it together and be strong for my brother and my sister (she got in from MD last night) and my aunt is so very hard. My family tells me I am the rational one, I have always been the one to show strength when things have gotten hard. Today, today was hard.
I am going to take that test tomorrow, my mom is going to drive me…and we are going to only talk about happy things. Nothing sad. Hopefully I will be able to find my focus in time for the exam.April 17, 2013 at 2:15 am #430288April 17, 2013 at 3:24 am #430289obvus22Member
So sorry for your loss smp73. Hang in there!
Shamir, that must have been really tough. I admire your tenacity.April 17, 2013 at 5:07 am #430290AnonymousInactive
So sorry for your loss. Hope the knowledge that A71 peeps are rooting for you helps give you strength, especially now. Go kick REG's ass!April 17, 2013 at 4:01 pm #430291littlenumberrobotMember
I am soooo sincerely sorry for your loss. Rooting for you today. Please take my thoughts as encouragement. WE are all here for you.April 17, 2013 at 8:40 pm #430292
LSNYC: I did not make it to Ann Taylor today but I have a gift card burning a hole in my pocket…hopefully soon. I did however manage to buy the obligatory new pair of nine west heels ( I have bought a pair after every exam) so at least in all the caios there was something that felt “normal” today.
Now that it is over it is hitting me just how exhausted I am. I have been going non stop since I got the call Monday. Very little sleep. I think I did okay but have no idea. Nothing felt too beastly which is either good or bad. Who knows. I guess I will find out soon enough. I think I need a nap.
I wanted to thank everyone for their encouragement and support it means so much. No one else knows how much studying goes into these exams…I am glad I took it. Either way, pass or fail, I am glad I took it today.April 24, 2013 at 12:12 pm #430293
SMP – Just checking in to see how you're doing…April 24, 2013 at 1:09 pm #430294
Hey LSNYC – I am hanging in there. Went back to work yesterday. By far the worst week of my life. On top of my father's death we had really strong winds that blew shingles off my roof and downspouts off my house and then yesterday my car wouldn't start. Neither of which were too terrible to deal with but on top of everything it sucked! Needless to say I am ready for some good.
I am starting to get nervous about my score on the exam just because I have absolutely no idea how I did but I am hoping for the best.
On the bright side I have finally got a good night sleep!
Thanks for checking – is it weird that I miss studying? It was the most normal part of my life until last week and now I have nothing to study. I have no idea what to do with myself. I am going to get fabric and start a quilt soon. 🙂
Hope your studying is going well!May 3, 2013 at 7:20 pm #430295
I did it! I passed! I am DONE! 🙂
Thanks again for all the encouragement!May 3, 2013 at 7:28 pm #430296littlenumberrobotMember
smp73!!! YOU are by the far the most strong person ever. I cannot believe you pulled it off but I am soooooo freaking happy for you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!May 3, 2013 at 7:30 pm #430297GatorbatesParticipant
Congrats, smp!! A little late to the topic, but I lost my mom in a car accident a month before I took my first CPA exam (10 years ago, when it was still paper based and you had to take all 4 sections at the same time.) I was numb. I actually stil am. I figured I spent the $$ on the exam, so I'll stop studying, and mourn and just sit and see how I did. I think I was in the 40's on all 4 sections. I didn't really care. But it gave me a baseline to know what to expect for future exams. (BTW, I haven't been attempting this for 10 straight years … took about 9 years off to get married, have kids and progress my career … got back on the train last year.)May 3, 2013 at 7:54 pm #430298
I still can not believe I pulled it off! I have never been so excited in my life!!! I feel like I can do anything now!!May 3, 2013 at 9:38 pm #430299MintsRGoodParticipant
Amazing news, congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm sorry for the rough times you've had lately and I'm so happy that you have made it to the other side and are DONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm sure your family is so proud of you and we are too!!!!!! 🙂May 3, 2013 at 10:04 pm #430300AnonymousInactive
smp73 oops sorry I mean CPA smp73: Good Work and so happy for you.. Enjoy and Savor every moment of your success!! you deserved it!May 3, 2013 at 11:00 pm #430301
Thanks guys! 🙂 I am so excited and relieved! Still doing the happy dance around my house! Long weekend of celebrating already planned. I have checked that score about a million times just to make sure it did not change!
This was the good news my family and I desperately needed! Yay! CPA!!
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