November 13, 2014 at 5:56 pm #676845GabeParticipant
@Rocky same here. I've taken FAR before and it truly is a crap shoot. So, I am going over SIMS and some trouble areas. I also cannot study 24/7. Although my wife is EXTREMELY supportive I also have a 2.5 year old and a newborn. I can only dodge diaper duty for so long 😉November 13, 2014 at 6:47 pm #676846
Jeff did add a “chat room”. It's the Another 71 Lounge thread. All random stuff and a lot of drinking going on over there. 🙂December 2, 2014 at 3:12 pm #676847
Little update… the ex and FSU football are all he ever talks about anymore.
Guess that's to make up for the exam being all I ever talk about anymore.December 2, 2014 at 4:43 pm #676848MissbotsMember
FlaglerAmanda, sorry, maybe when you are done with the exams you guys can work it out. Must be stressful for you to worry about him and his ex, and the exam too. Hopefully it works out the way it's meant to be in the end..good luckDecember 2, 2014 at 5:40 pm #676849
@ Flagler … well if FSU football is all he talks about, we know he can't be that smart. FSU football is just as sleazy as he sounds (no offense).
And a double whammy if he includes the ex. It really sounds like he needs to hit the road. I assume you're in Florida (because of the FSU/Flagler) … what city?December 2, 2014 at 5:50 pm #676850December 2, 2014 at 6:01 pm #676851
Gatorbates sounds like he has “Nole envy”. lol It's hard to swallow, when your team goes 4-8, and 6-5, I do realize. I am in Tallahassee also Flagler.December 2, 2014 at 6:05 pm #676852
I was a Nole fan my whole life. Until this year.
Now I wear Orange socks on Saturdays out of rebellion.December 2, 2014 at 6:08 pm #676853
Rebel against the problem, not the football team. 🙂December 2, 2014 at 7:59 pm #676854
No “Nole Envy” here. I went to both schools. Graduated from UF. FSU was fun, less challenging. UF was fun, but more challenging, education wise. All Nole's remember the down football years a few years ago … it's cyclical. Every team goes through it. (Well, maybe not Alabama.) Orange and Blue till I die. But I did thoroughly enjoy my time in Tallahassee. Great school for Ringling Brothers. I don't hate FSU. Only Winston. And their coverups/lack of transparency. And Jimbo being an enabler. I better stop. I'm probably starting to sound like Amanda's worse half.December 2, 2014 at 8:03 pm #676855
No cover up in Nole land. If you are going to go there, might as well address Cervone's enabling of the UF football team for years. You are right, every school has its “less than proud moments”. Aaron Hernandez comes to mind, in terms of UF. It's all good man, there are bright spots among both schools' programs. Not sure anyone can make a blanket statement about the quality of education from either.December 2, 2014 at 9:39 pm #676856AnonymousInactive
Flagler, you are smart, you do not need to hear your husband talk about his ex.
That is not nice. Tell him to stop talking about or with his ex from the house or in front of you or the kids.
He is being mean and you need to tell him that. He is the problem not his ex. You signed a contract with him.
Getting a CPA is good for your family and that includes him. He is being bad. If you can get those high
scores you can definitely put this guy in his place any time, exams or not.December 3, 2014 at 1:37 am #676857SkynetParticipant
Unfortunately, with Scarlett Johannson off the market, I will never get such experience 🙁December 3, 2014 at 3:18 pm #676858AnonymousInactive
@Flagler – Anytime he brings up his ex, casually mention Lorena Bobbitt. He will learn.December 3, 2014 at 3:39 pm #676859
I'm just ready to get the exams/last two classes over with so I can let her have him.December 3, 2014 at 3:54 pm #676860
A relationship is a two way street. There are going to be ups and downs, for better or for worse. It's not about giving up or giving in, it's about compromise. Many people think relationships are easy, but who would have thought they require work.!? :I Many people give up way to easily; acting like another relationship will be perfect or any better. People change over time, simply thinking that the moment when you two fell in love will last forever without a little work is absurd. If you want your husband, fight for him. There are many ways to go about him and his ex problem.
“Little update… the ex and FSU football are all he ever talks about anymore.
Guess that's to make up for the exam being all I ever talk about anymore.”
Sounds like you both have items to work on. And simply rebelling against him sounds like it’ll only push him away further. How about an honest conversation?December 3, 2014 at 3:55 pm #676861
Keep up the hard work and passing @FlaglerAmanda. You can do it, and if you can put as much effort into your relationship as the CPA exam, you'll be just fine. 🙂December 3, 2014 at 4:22 pm #676862
@Everybodyswaiting – we've had honest conversations. I've let him know exactly how the whole situation is affecting me, but he's still going to her rescue.
The little rebellions aren't for him. They're for me. And very well hidden.December 3, 2014 at 5:18 pm #676863FDR8703Member
I'm sorry to hear about your current situation, I recently just finished with a divorce of the about the same amount of years. It's not easy, and extremely challenging and emotionally draining.
I would say this. If you think your marriage is savable, I would focus on that as it is more important than any CPA exam. Put the CPA aside, focus on truly what matters, as the exams will always be here. If you believe it is not savable, it will be a challenge to complete, but not impossible.
I put my CPA aside for over eight years because my ex didn't want me putting the required time into studying for it, as I was already putting in a lot of time with my job. So I never got it done. Once she left, I was a wreck emotionally and couldn't focus on anything. Then I learned it is important as part of the healing process of divorce, to focus and succeed at something, anything. So I chose the CPA exams. It was hard, is hard as I have one exam left (BEC). However, it really helped me heal through my divorce, and gave me a lot of hope and needed positive outlook I needed the time.
My suggestion, do the same, make a goal and fight as hard as you need to to accomplish the goal. As you do, it will help you during this horrible time. It will be difficult, and may take some time, but it you can succeed. Good luck, and let me know how it all goes.December 3, 2014 at 5:20 pm #676864
@FlaglerAmanda – I'm sorry that he's not responsive to your conversations. In my thought, what if you suggested that you help in her situation and not just him trying to? That way, it'll seem like you're connected with her and that she's not some trophy or at whatever status he is putting her at. Kind of a shot in the dark, but like reverse psychology?… :/December 4, 2014 at 2:31 pm #676865
I've tried that. Just makes him talk about her more.
Last night they were on the phone for an hour and he's going to be calling this dude she met on some dating site to screen him to approve their relationship.
1 – What guy talks on the phone that long with someone he isn't trying to sleep with?
2 – Really? She can't make her dating decisions without his approval?December 4, 2014 at 3:00 pm #676866
The answer to #1 is no one.
#2 is especially odd. It is safe to say that Seminole and his gal pal have a relationship that really runs deep.
It is just a matter of how hard you're gonna stick it to him in court I guess. I think he's trying to make you force him out so he's not the bad guy.December 4, 2014 at 3:04 pm #676867
What's keeping you with him at this point?December 4, 2014 at 3:05 pm #676868Rocky123Member
No matter how you slice it, he is just not a good guy. Certainly not one worth wasting my time on. It sounds like he's not willing to change.
Unless you are willing to put up with more of the same, I would leave. There are other men out there that know how to treat women better.December 4, 2014 at 3:06 pm #676869
^^^ money and kids.December 4, 2014 at 3:08 pm #676870
Emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating IMO. I applaud your restraint for not snatching the phone out of his hand and beating him with it. I know there are two sides to every story and I know that the CPA exam has a lot of your attention right now, but turning to someone of the opposite sex (regardless of whether they have a past or not) is foul and the fact that he is blatant about it and doesn't care that it bothers you is him seeing how far he can take this thing. I am all for trying to make a marriage work and not giving up but I don't think you should allow someone to disrespect you like that. Pack his stuff and put it outside.December 4, 2014 at 3:13 pm #676871
Kids should not be the reason to stay. Your kids are seeing how he is treating you and they are learning from this. Daddy is talking to his “friend”. Mommy is upset. Etc. I don't know how old your kids are so I don't know what they would pick up on, but you're setting an example of what relationships should be like. They would be better off seeing you strong and independent than hurt, confused, and upset all the time. Even if you think you're hiding it from them, they probably notice more than you think. Just my $0.02.December 4, 2014 at 3:17 pm #676872
Not sure if you have daughters or not, but the WORST thing a dad can do is treat his wife bad in front of his girl(s). They look to him as a male role model and their choices about boys/men in the future will be heavily influenced by the way daddy treated mommy. No question. So not only is he being a douche canoe to you, he's messing with your children as well.December 4, 2014 at 3:18 pm #676873
Agree with Mama again but it is really hard when kids are involved. I would put up with nearly anything to be around my kid daily. It's def a tough spot.December 4, 2014 at 3:21 pm #676874
Yes Gatorbates!!! I tell my husband frequently that he has 4 daughters watching his moves and learning exactly what type of guy they want based on how he treats me. It's more important than you realize.
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