[OnmywaytoCPA]

My wife has been complaining a lot lately about how much time I’m spending with preparing for FAR. I take FAR on 2/29, so I’m putting in overtime with the studying. She wants me to spend more time with her, but I have to study. She says she wants me to pass, but she is constantly saying I don’t pay her any attention. Any advice?

AUD - 83
BEC - 79
FAR - 77
REG - 90

CMA Part 1 - 360 (Barely made it but I made it)
CMA Part 2 - 360 (Made it by the skin of my teeth)

REG - 74, Retook 6/10/16, scored a 72 (Hate this exam)
BEC - 69, 79, 8/1/15
AUD - 83, 4/4/15
FAR - 77, 2/27/16

[monikernc]

Have you tried telling her that the more you study now the sooner it will be over and then you have the rest of your lives to spend giving each other your undivided attention? And don”t forget valentine's day starts at midnight. Make her breakfast in the morning. Tell her you love her -text her every so often from the room where you are studying. Have her help with flash cards.but whatever you do, don't divulge just how sexy FAR is. She will never trust you with AUD, REG or BEC if you do!

AUD - 93
BEC - 82
FAR - 76
REG - 88

How have you been?
Ninja book and MCQs and the forum, all first try! 2016
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Experience was the worst part of the journey for me. You?
If you want things to change you have to do something different.

FAR 7/25/15 76!
AUD 10/30/15 93
BEC 2/27/16 82
REG 5/23/16 88!
Ninja Book and MCQ and the forum - all the way!!!
and a little thing i like to call, time and effort!
if you want things to change, you have to do something different

[Skynet]

You need a new wife.

If she is jealous of FAR, she may be jealous of REG, BEC, or AUD the next time too.

I can see it now. She catches you at a restaurant with your FAR book and a glass of wine. ” OH, so you have time to spend with FAR and not me!” She is making a scene and people are staring.

You reply “HONEY, it's not what you think!”

AUD - 90
BEC - 78
FAR - 84
REG - 87

World Domination Plan

Phase I : Pass CPA Exams - Complete
Phase II : Megan Fox - In Progress
Phase III : Megan Fox & Scarlett Johansson Lingerie Pillow Fight
Phase IV : Form the new Charlie's Angels with Megan Fox, Scarlett Johansson, & Gal Gadot
Phase V : TBD

BEC : 78
REG : 87
FAR : 84
AUD : 90

World Domination Plan

Phase I : Pass CPA Exams - Complete
Phase II : Megan Fox - Initiated
Phase III : Bring back 8-Tracks
Phase IV : Megan Fox & Scarlett Johansson Lingerie Pillow Fight
Phase V : TBA

[Anonymous]

Does she not get jealous with Siri too?

How could she be jealous with the voices of Jeff, Tim Gearty, Peter Olinto, or Roger?

I sometimes play my iPad's audio while on hot tub, my man is not bothered. (He ought not to!)
I just find it funny each time my husband would catch me listening then sigh. “Oh that voice again lecturing in my bathroom”. Haha

[Skynet]

SIRI is an actual woman. I SWEAR BY IT!

AUD - 90
BEC - 78
FAR - 84
REG - 87

World Domination Plan

Phase I : Pass CPA Exams - Complete
Phase II : Megan Fox - In Progress
Phase III : Megan Fox & Scarlett Johansson Lingerie Pillow Fight
Phase IV : Form the new Charlie's Angels with Megan Fox, Scarlett Johansson, & Gal Gadot
Phase V : TBD

BEC : 78
REG : 87
FAR : 84
AUD : 90

World Domination Plan

Phase I : Pass CPA Exams - Complete
Phase II : Megan Fox - Initiated
Phase III : Bring back 8-Tracks
Phase IV : Megan Fox & Scarlett Johansson Lingerie Pillow Fight
Phase V : TBA

[Yaz88]

I have a gf who is somewhat the same… I can't fathom how she is not understanding about the importance of the CPA exam to me.. and I am studying far too… Some women are needy and want the attention all the time, it's either you deal with her attention and the studying, or I don't what know what else lol.. you're married so it's different.. I wish my girl was an accountant or in the business realm so she can understand… it sucksssssssssssssssssssssssssss

[Missy]

Are you paying any attention to her and spending any time with her? Be honest here there's a big difference between balancing everything and blowing her off. Unless you were already studying when you got married she didn't sign on for this and you have to be understanding of her needs. This exam is hardly worth strain on a marriage, find a way to give her more time and explain its the best you can do for now.

Old timer,  A71'er since 2010.

Finance manager/HR manager

 

 

Licensed Massachusetts Non Reporting CPA since 2012
Finance/Admin/HR Manager

[SGShiver]

OnmywaytoCPA- I understand both the need to study for the CPA exam and the need for a woman to have her husband's attention (I am a married female taking the CPA exam). I have questions for you to think to yourself and nothing that you have to confess to online. Do you take short breaks while studying for the exam? Do those breaks involve sports, video games, hunting, fishing, cars, or other hobbies that take up your remaining time and do not involve your wife?

If the answer is no: maybe you should consider taking a 20 minute break during extended periods of studying (say every 2 hours) to spend with your wife and to avoid burnout.

If the answer is yes: Then the problem really will not be with the time spent on the exam, but with the priorities that take place in your life. Your wife is more likely to be jealous of your hobbies than the FAR exam.

I am not saying it is bad to have hobbies or to give them up completely, but when you study for the CPA exam your time is very limited and you will have to cut out things that are not important until you pass. If you are spending time with your wife and are already cutting out hobbies/spending time with her on breaks then there may be a bigger underlying issue going on.

Hope you figure everything out and good luck on the FAR exam!

FAR- 53, next time 5/5/16
B: 7/30/16
A:TBD
R:TBD

[Anonymous]

Have you considered going to the coffee shop at 5am – 8am instead of studying at night? Take Sundays off and make plans to go on a hike, ride bikes, take her out for a lunch. I had to do this to be present at home for wife and kids. Now that i'm finished the weight of that lifting is an incredible experience

[Jess774]

The more time that you spending on FAR NOW, the better your chances are of passing. The sooner you pass, the sooner you can go back to being an attentive husband !! =)

AUD - 88
BEC - 81
FAR - 69
REG - 75

REG - 75
BEC - 70,64,81
FAR - 67,69
AUD - 88

REG - 75
BEC - 70, 64, 81!!!!
FAR - 67, 69, retake: Oct 2016
AUD - 8/25/16

[EuroAddict]

Luckily my wife understands the time it takes. Ever since we got married I've either been in school full-time or studying/working full-time. Almost done!

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BEC - 77, 03/2015 (first try)
FAR - 79, 05/2015 (second try)
REG - 83, 12/2015 (first try)
AUD - 84, 03/2015 (first try)

I got 99 problems but the CPA ain't one.

[Anonymous]

I saw there were a lot of replies to this thread, so hadn't opened it up cause thought people had already answered thoroughly, but now see that a lot are joking (or at least I hope they are)…

So to answer honestly:

Throughout my relationship (6 years), my BF and I have been had periods of time that each of us was the one with the busier schedule. At one point he was the one with a busy work schedule, and I was the one still in college working part-time that felt like he was always at work and I barely got any time with him. Then he wanted some time alone to chill, and I got jealous of that time. Skip forward a bit, and I was working taxes; winter and spring was a slow season at his job, so he was working less than I was, and our roles had swapped; I was on the one that was busier, he was the one that was less-busy. All of a sudden, I was the one that wanted a bit of time to myself, and he was the one that felt like we never had time to do anything together. There's been more back and forth, but through it all, what I've learned is this: the busier person always doesn't feel the lack of “couple time” as much as the less-busy person. So, when I'm the busier person, I try to listen to the less-busy person and realize that they need to be the indicator of when we're not spending enough time together. Then when I'm the less-busy person, I try to remember that the busier person isn't brushing me off, but their busier schedule causes them to not feel the lack of together time as much as I do.

So my advice to the OP: find ways to make time for your wife, even if it's to study with your wife (like having her help you with flash cards, or something like that). Maybe try “teaching” her concepts from your textbook that you're having trouble with – teaching can be a very effective way to learn for people. But also make time to do non-study related things. Cause your marriage will (hopefully!) still be there when the exams are done, and you want it to be healthy. And realize that when you feel like you just spend time with her cause you haven't had time to think since you last hung out together, she's feeling like it's been forever cause she doesn't have as crazy of a schedule, so has had lots of time to feel neglected.

You need time to recharge, so if you can find some things that give you study-breaks that also give her the connection time that she needs, it could make your study more effective and also make her feel more valued. I would guess that even little things – like stand up from your books, go grab a drink from the fridge, and on the way stop by to give her a kiss – would go a long way. So find the little things, and some bigger things, and make her feel valued. And also tell her in plain words that you appreciate the sacrifice she's making. Are you making a bigger one? Yeah, maybe, but that's not what she needs to hear right now. She needs to hear that you recognize what she's doing, by giving up her time with you to allow you to pass this exam.

Hang in there – you can become a married CPA yet. 🙂

[MaLoTu]

Just promise her that you will dedicate the first week of March to her if she can just hang on until FAR is over with. Plan a date night (after FAR) or an overnight vacation to take her mind off of the time you are spending on FAR. This should mean a lot to her … especially if it is not something you normally do.

Almost always from my phone... please excuse my typos!

All 4 passed - 2016

CA CPA

[OnmywaytoCPA]

Thank you for advice everyone. I took FAR this afternoon and prayfully I passed with a 75 or higher, so my wife can start being jealous of REG. Lol. Just kidding, I won't have to study as much with REG. FAR just has so much information. I'm going to plan my study time a lot better going forward so that my wife feels included.

AUD - 83
BEC - 79
FAR - 77
REG - 90

CMA Part 1 - 360 (Barely made it but I made it)
CMA Part 2 - 360 (Made it by the skin of my teeth)

REG - 74, Retook 6/10/16, scored a 72 (Hate this exam)
BEC - 69, 79, 8/1/15
AUD - 83, 4/4/15
FAR - 77, 2/27/16

[OnmywaytoCPA]

Thank you for advice everyone. I took FAR this afternoon and prayfully I passed with a 75 or higher, so my wife can start being jealous of REG. Lol. Just kidding, I won't have to study as much with REG. FAR just has so much information. I'm going to plan my study time a lot better going forward so that my wife feels included.

AUD - 83
BEC - 79
FAR - 77
REG - 90

CMA Part 1 - 360 (Barely made it but I made it)
CMA Part 2 - 360 (Made it by the skin of my teeth)

REG - 74, Retook 6/10/16, scored a 72 (Hate this exam)
BEC - 69, 79, 8/1/15
AUD - 83, 4/4/15
FAR - 77, 2/27/16

[Steve Brule]

I told my wife that I'm studying for us, so we can have a better future together. She has always understood. I hope your wife can understand the rewards the both of you will get for your temporary sacrifice.

AUD - 99
BEC - 81
FAR - 86
REG - 88

For your health!

FAR - 86
AUD - 99
REG - 88
BEC - 08/29/2016

For your health!

[Author]

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