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So I read so many of these posts in the last 2 days trying to find the correct solution, yet I can’t. So here is my story and I would so appreciate some feedback.
Graduated fall 2009. I started the CPA study 2010. Took bec n audit failed both. My marriage had been on a rough path since 2006 when I went back to sac state to complete my BS after having 2 kids. We’ll things never got better but I made it to graduation somehow. Semester after semester thinking of dropping out, fighting, but then pushing through with a full time job, 2 kids n an insecure husband. I made it. Fortunately got a job with FTB couple months after graduation. After my first attempt of CPA in 2010 I gave up. Marriage issues were on the rise. I would pick up to study like every 3 months. Then drop it due to problems in marriage. 2011-2013 still married, n together but problems have not yet disappeared.
2013 I slowly studied n took audit again. Scored better than first time but did not pass. 2014 we r still together. This year I wanna study again. I got the books, paid the fees once n let it expire. 🙁
Husband says he will allow me time. Yet it all the work drops on me.
My routine. I wake up at 5am to shower n pray. Then prep breakfast n lunch for kids n husband for school n work. I drop kids to school n go to wrk. After wrk schedule as follows:
Monday-I get out of wrk in time to take daughter to dance class at 6. daughter has dance class from 6-7. I drop her . Use that hour to wrk out or run pick her up at 715. Drop couple other girls n get home by 7:40. Prep dinner while kids shower. I sometimes make tortillas or curry for Tuesday lunch on Monday night. Kids eat. I help/chk homewrk. By the time I shower it like 10. I’m beat.
Tuesday- I like to do some sort if Jillian michaels video at home if I don’t go to gym for an hour to refresh . Shower by 7:30. Dinner. Chk home wrk. It’s 8:30-9. I can study for a couple hours maybe.
Wednesday- almost similar to Tuesday. I make dinner.
Thursday- pick kids after wrk around 6. Get home 6:30. We get home around 6:30 everyday by the way, I chk kids home wrk. Usually kids are scheduled to go to devotional singing at 7:30. If I don’t take them there is a huge argument. Why I can’t take a break one day n go.
Friday- I telework. Son has gymnastic at 5:30-7:30. So I take him. For two hours I running onto gym to wrk out. Come home shower n be ready to study couple hours.
Saturday I have to help clean house coz if I don’t there is a fight. Make lunch/dinner. If I get to study couple hours day time it will be full of interruptions. Come n chk this, or kids running to me. Out laundry in etc . Sunday I have to take kids to temple at 9:30. If husband takes them I have to have lunch ready as they get back around 1pm.
Some ppl suggested, take vacations with him. We took 2 this year. One in January, one in April. I do dinners, I propose to go to movies. We have dinner together every weekend. Weekdays kids eat together, husband n I eat together for most part. He is always saying yes go study, go study. But nxt minute they want me to do something. He does not understand why I can waste an hour to exercise and not just get home, shower n start studying. I’m a tax auditor. After staring at law n computer all day, I am beat. Now he does help me don’t take me wrong. He does the dishes, help clean.
Now my husband has no college education. I thought maybe if he went to college he wud understand. But I can’t even have him register for classes. CPA is a dream for me. I try to do so much for them. But they always complain that I don’t do enough. They want me to go play with them, go to swim with them, watch tv. How do I keep the balance and achieve my dream. I do not know how to make him understand what kinda devil CPA , what kinda commitment it requires. How much time I need to put it etc. please advice.
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